Who protects the black woman?
Why should the black woman be protected?
Is the black woman respected?
What is respect and how do we the black woman obtain respect?
Where does the responsibility lie for the protection of our black women and children?
I believe it is the responsibility of our black men to make sure that the black women are safe and taken care of financially. When this happens, we then know that our children are cared for and protected
If we were not cared for by our black men in our families: fathers, brothahs, uncles, husbands, and friends, then we as black women are at a loss and subjected to failure and possibly lost in our direction in the world that we live in
I believe that when our black men protect us: black woman and our children, it allows our families to come together in strength, empowerment, and most of all, love
When this happens, our children obtain a sense of self-respect, high self-esteem, direction in their lives, and are successful at any and all they achieve to do
When this happens, black women know where they stand and where their place is in their families
We then become stronger, happier, have a better sense of who we are to be and do so with smiles and greater love along with passion for our black men
Respect, respect, why am I respecting you black woman? Who do you think you are?
I believe that the black woman does not get the respect that she is due nor does the black woman respect herself enough to be respected by others
When our black men refer to black women as objects and a piece of meat, we are not being respected
When our black men verbally, emotionally, and physically abuse black women, we are not being respected
When our black men exert infidelity, be it with another woman or another man, we are not being respected
When our black men do not take charge and correct other black men on how a black woman is to be treated, we are not being respected
When our black men continually go out there and push drugs or committing a crime, we are not being respected
When our black men decide not to care for their children: emotionally, financially, spiritually, and fatherly, we are not being respected
When our black women walk around with their breast exposed and their butt hanging out, you are not respecting yourself or our sistahs, the black woman
When our black women make the choice to go out with married men or decide to get involved with men that are involved with another sistah, you are not respecting yourself or your sistahs, the black woman
When our black women allow their child or children to openly sell drugs so that they can have their house remodeled or drive a new luxury car or buy new clothing or whatever motive it may be, you are not respecting yourself or your sistahs, the black woman
When our black women let others do harm to their child or children openly with a conscious or subconscious sense of denial, you are not respecting yourself or your sistahs, the black woman
So as black women, what do I need to do to make others respect me?
I believe that respect is demanded when it is not given freely, openly, and consistently. I also believe that we must first learn to respect ourselves in order for others around us to respect us
When that brothah calls you out of your name, correct him and tell him that you will not tolerate that disrespect and will not respond unless it is your correct name
When that brothah raises his voice to you or attempts to assault you or your child or children, you correct him and tell him that you will not tolerate that disrespect and that type of behavior
When that brothah decides to stay out past a respectful time, correct him and tell him that you will not tolerate that disrespect and sit down to discuss a better time that you both agree upon
When that brothah approaches you and you know that he has a wife or is is seeing another black woman, you correct him and tell him that you will not tolerate that disrespect of your sistah
Sistahs, when we meet these black men, it is our job to show them, tell them, and model to them what we need and express how we are to receive it. Some of our black men may not want to know, some of our black men know and choose to do wrong, and some of our black men may not have a clue. So do your individual part in setting the record straight on what respecting and protecting a black woman means and let us begin to help our brothahs so that they can learn how to respect and protect the black woman. PEACE…©2006
cj is a poet, educator, motivational speaker, and inspirational writer who resides in Philadelphia. She has been creating and writing for decades with the desire to share with you, the reader. Stay tuned as she will empower, uplift, motivate, and change a thought or two. Feedback, sharing your awesome words, and/or questions? Hit her up at: [email protected].